Monday, August 20, 2007

Losing Grip.!

For some of you, the title may sound bit murky, but I think it’s the most sanguine and introspective title I could ever think of. If you know you are loosing hold of something you actually know what was under your control and probably today the inevitability of being successful is to know that. Right from our childhood we have been following, may be not the safest but the already traversed path, enstrangled in the same beliefs and processes which our predecessors followed, assuming to get the same life which they got, ignorant of the life which we want out of ourselves. I am not saying everyone has to be an iconoclast and the system is not legitimate, but out of booming percentage of people why only few come out as bohemian! Why in spite of achieving good grades and hefty job profile, we still think something is out of control, why the joy seems incomplete sometimes! Something is LOST..
May be we never knew what is required, may be we still don’t know what defines the criterion of possessing something. What we gain from this world; be it relationships, be it material success, everything sometimes seems to be going away from us as if we are LOSING GRIP! So can you control them from being lost, or will you be plagued with this disguised fear all the time.
So, the bottom-line of the situation here is what do we actually possess? Do we often ask that question to ourselves, have we ever tried to find what do we want from our life, did we ever tried to question our integrity with our own self…or in other words DO WE POSSESS OUR SELF? For most of us the question may seem irrelevant and may be contemptible, but the irony of the situation is the crux of all our fears lie in the answers to these questions. We are afraid of losing because we dictate the idea of possession in terms of what we’ve lost and never in terms of what we have!
As soon as we realize this fact that we are Losing grip of our own self, half of our battle against that fear is already won. So, take your time, think, work and fight to get that veracity in your life and be the leader of your own life and see how all our fears will go away! And we will come out as BOHEMIAN, may be not for the society but surely for our own self.

7 comments:

tanuj solanki said...

Gud show...

Is there a hidden reference to my blog... or may be i just thought so because it had 'LOST' in it...

kirtee agarwal said...

your blog cud be one of the reason for the same..!

ayushjain said...
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ayushjain said...

Hi Kirtee. Its good to see you here with a new blog. Well, I definitely appreciate your idea of absconding morality. There are too many rules laid out by other people for each one of us as an individual and it is good to believe that a bohemian personality would make you feel better. It is, in fact, your tendency to break free from what the society has laid down for you and do whatever you wish to. But I just wanted to slip a thought across your mind that being a bohemian and living out your own way may not always be the correct way to do things. This blog and this entry of your quite ironically counters your thoughts of becoming a bohemian. For one of a bohemian its too minute a concern what other people think of his actions or thoughts. But as a matter of fact you have tried to let out your thoughts through this discussion of yours about breaking free. Its that you want the other people to read and approve of your thoughts. Its that you want a social framework around yourself where your own thoughts are appreciative. I do not know if you would approve of my thoughts but what I want to put across to you is that it is not humanly possible to actually become individualistic to the extent people pretend to be. It is more important to understand that we are still a human being and we need some kind of psycho-social support from other beings of similar nature. I do not wish to say that you approve of the social morality and value system without questioning it. But keeping your thoughts to yourself and trying to break free in a revolutionary manner may not actually result into what you have quoted as taking control of the self and not loosing grip. The real GRIP lies in the challenge of keeping your individuality alive within the society you have been situationally attached. You cannot change others' thinking processes instantaneously and in fact, all change is an outcome of time. But you should play your part by making the not so thoughtful or dynamic individuals believe that you are still are a part of them but at the same time intelligently attack their psychological processes of accepting whatever has been laid out to them and not accepting a change in thought or action. The idea is not to run away from the task of liberating and affecting your socio-human surroundings and too employ your own intelligence to setting up yourself as you are in their frame which is how their frame actually gets influenced. So don't loose grip on yourself and don't let them realise how you can grip them as well along with your own. By the way, a good start and a good effort. Your thoughts were worth reading. All the best. Happy writing. Keep up the good work.

i m mohit said...

'we are Losing grip of our own self'

Its nice to learn that u have observed and dared to question but don't u think the above statement demands questions(and,hence,answers)too?
Who is loosing Whom???

kirtee agarwal said...

hi mohit!
that is my idea of putting this blog here..think who is loosing whom..seek your answers from within..!

Alex said...

deja vu...read sumthin same but on a completely different context...
lyk hw as a toddler we r always presuurised ba our parents 2 get a `all A` report card...so that we get in2 the best coll and then the best job and then the best salry n thEn a equally big tax payment...n we just pass on the exact teachings 2 our children which we were 1ce forced 2 learn...its lyk everything starts intersecting n in the end what we get is `BERMUDA TRIANGLE`